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The Perfect Holiday

Hope you all enjoy the public holiday tomorrow. 

Ps, Going to start the 30 day Blog Challenge tomorrow.  Wish me luck on baring my soul and managing a post a day.


The conversation went like this : 

DH : I’m on my way back home (from an all day fishing trip) what’s to eat ? 

ME : I also just got in (was at my mums for two days) Foster Kid has already eaten.  I’m not eating because I have indigestion.  What do you want to eat ? 

DH : We (as in my friends and I) are going out after I get home. 

ME : Oh 

DH : Will you give me some money ?  (used up his limit for the day paying a holding deposit on a new car) 

ME : Yeah sure, I don’t have any cash but you can take my card. 

DH : ok thank you 

DH : (a few min later) Are you upset that I’m going out ? 

ME : Not upset, disappointed (coz I haven’t seen him for the last two days)  But you owe me ok?  Burgers at Taco Zulu, maybe on Tuesday afternoon (so we can have some alone time) 

DH : Ok. I won’t go. It’s ok 

ME : No baby go.  There’s nothing nice for you to have for supper.  I’ll catch up on some Cake Boss.  I’m working tomorrow anyway, might go to bed early. 

DH : It’s ok.  I’ll chill at home. 

ME : Now I feel bad.  You’re on leave, go have some fun. 

DH : Don’t feel bad.  You are already disappointed. 

ME : Oh God, just go!  I missed you that’s all. 

DH : Just forget it. 

ME : ok 

ME : why do you bother asking me a question if you don’t want an honest answer ? 

DH : I told you I will be home. 

End of conversation.


What did I do wrong?


Don’t know why but I haven’t been able to comment on any of your posts for the last week!  I keep getting some crappy error GRRRRRRRR

Just wanted you to know I am doing the Balki Bartokomous Dance of Joy for you !!!!  “Now we are so happy, we do the dance of joy!”  Sorry, this dumbass doesn’t know how to insert a video but it goes something like this *leg kick, leg kick, jump, shout hey hey hey*

Hugs !!

As if my levels of broody are not already though the roof, my mum got a new doggy yesterday.  He’s a 8 week old pug.  And just the cutest thing.  They came by to visit yesterday.  He ran around exploring for just a few minutes, and was so exhausted, he curled up in my arms and fell off to sleep.  Just like a real baby…. 

I do hope that he fulfills my mum’s need for some love and affection.  

 He loves his new bed…..

This is him loving is new bed

 And he looooves the heater


Anyway, he doesn’t have a name yet.  I like “Nitro” and “Nugget”

Any suggestions for a cute name for this ugly fella ? 


1. Share a dirty little secret

I’ve always wanted to know what it would be like to kiss a girl.

2. If you had to describe yourself, what is the first word that comes to mind


3. Name one thing you will never do

Use bad words in the presence of my mum !

4. What is the one thing in your life that you had to give up that has been the hardest thing ever to do

My dad 😦

5. What is the one thing of your partner that you love the most

This is a tough one, coz all the things that I have always loved about him seems to be working in my disfavour right now.  He has a great heart, and he does everything to the best of his ability.  So when he’s fighting with me, he does a bang-up job !

6. Name one of your worst qualities

Where do I even begin…..procrastinator, too sensitive, unable to speak my mind, care too much about making an impression etc etc

7. If you can meet a movie star, who would you choose and why

Ohhh do have to settle for one??!?  Can’t I have two plzzzzzzzzz…..  My choices are : 

Gerard Butler…..coz he is absolutely delicious.  I love that bad boy stubble and his crooked smile.  I definitely wouldn’t mind him parking his shoes under my bed !  I loooved him in PS. I Love you


And Matthew McConaughey……coz he’s just so damn sexy, especially when he had that Southern accent in “A Time To Kill”

 8. One thing you cannot live without

Chocolate !

9. Tell us about the best gift you have ever received

My parents GAVE me R40,000 for my first IVF.  

10. Do you remember your first kiss? Feel free to tell more

Yessss !  It was under a tree, I must have been about 14.  It was probably really pathetic but I was in love after just one kiss.  The dude turned out to be a stalker.  He still calls my house up till today.  My parents started feeling so sorry for him, that they just chat with him as he sounds so lonely.  He acts like he’s a family friend.

11. Tell anything about yourself that you think we don’t know about you yet

I find it difficult to cry in the presence of other people, even my family, even DH.

 That’s it!  Have an awesome weekend everybody !


Belle at tagged all her readers in this questionnaire. Here are the rules: 

1. Post the rules.

2. Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post.

3. Create 11 new questions to ask people you tag.

4. Tag 11 people and link them to the post.

5. Let them know you’ve tagged them. And now, the questions!  

1. Gold or silver?

Definitely silver!  Or white gold.  My wedding ring and bands are white gold, with diamonds and a tanzanite.  I’m not sure if Tanzanites are popular just in Africa or in other countries as well.  Tanzanites are stones mined in foothills of Mount Kilimanjaro in Tanzania.  I first read of them on an in-flight magazine and was really awed by them as they are quite rare.  There is a limited supply of them and once they have all been mined, then that’s it.   When I spotted a Tanzanite ring in a jewelry shop, DH spotted his opportunity, bought the ring in the quiet and surprised me by going down on one knee and proposing J  This is what a Tanzanite looks like, except mine is much lighter, being not as good in quality.  But it’s still a Tanzanite so I’m happy 🙂

 2. What is your favorite sound?

I love the sound of the rain.  Especially when I’m indoors, all curled up and warm, drinking coffee, yummies to eat, a good movie or book.  Oh and fluffy socks (hate it when my toes are cold) Unfortunately rainy days are not so cozy in my house.  The fact that I have blinds, wooden floors and a leather lounge suite all make it feel so cold.  Add to the fact that both my cats love the rain, and will play in the rain for hours, then come indoors and track their wet footprints all over the wooden floor and leather lounge suite.  Yes it does drive me crazy. 

3. Where do you most frequently blog from?

Blogging is a bit difficult for me at the moment as I don’t have a proper internet connection.  So I ether remove my sim from my phone and put it in my laptop, which is a bloody mission.  Or I write up my post at home, and do a quick copy & paste at work in the morning.  Catching up on the blogs I subscribe to and commenting I do from my phone.

 4. How do you like your coffee?

Coffee, yum, don’t get me started.  I cannot seem to give this damn thing up.  I blame the Nescafe machine at my office. It allows me to have a chococino everyday at R2 a cup!!  Anyway, the machine broke yesterday and we awaiting a technician.  I think it’s a sign, a push in the right direction.  So I have had my last cup of coffee this morning.  Wish me luck !

 5. Do the NPR pledge drives successfully guilt you into donating? (I ask b/c I am currently suffering through one!)

n/a ???

 6. How often do you balance your checkbook?

Don’t have a cheque book, most of my payments are done via EFT, or debit or credit card.  But I do keep slips, and try to accounts for all my expenses. 

7. What is the most used item in your kitchen?

Let me start off by saying that I do not spend much time in the kitchen……unless I’m eating.  DH is the cook.  And he just does it so well.  He’s really passionate about it, and is always trying new things.  And he’s one of those people whose experiments rarely fail.  He also loves to feed me and see me enjoy a good meal.  That would account for my size lol !  So, most items in the kitchen are not used by me.

 8. Where did you honeymoon?

Our honeymoon was sad in terms of location and extravagance.  Since DH and I were much older when we got married (I was 29 and he was35) we paid for our own wedding.  We had the religious ceremony on the first day and a breakfast reception the next.  It was an amazing day.  Afterwards, DH actually said Thank You to me as he had so enjoyed the reception.  It was like us, not formal and starchy.  The formalities were over quickly and we managed to spend a substantial amount of time with our guests.  Back to our honeymoon, we didn’t have much money after the wedding expenses and with it being peak period, our options were limited.  We just booked into a small B & B on the coast.  But I don’t think it would have mattered where we were, just relaxing and being together after the frantic wedding activity was pure bliss.  And knowing we were husband and wife, it was amazing.  Even though we had been living together for 3 years before our marriage, being together has husband and wife had a certain sweetness to it.  How I wish I could go back to those days.

 9. What is your diagnosis?

Both tubes blocked, early ovarian aging

 10. When did you know it would be difficult to have children?

In 2005 I went to a gynecologist as DH and I were going on a cruise and I needed to tweak my period so it wouldn’t arrive during our holiday.  He discovered a cyst and when we got back from holiday, I had it aspirated via laparoscopy.  It was during this procedure that he discovered that both my fallopian tubes were damaged and blocked, and I was told that I would never be able to conceive naturally.

 11. If you could give one piece of advice to the person you were when you were just starting your IF journey, what would it be? 

This advice would be given to that stupid, immature girl who had just received diagnosis of blocked tubes – “Forget about a fancy wedding, forget about a house, those things are so not important.  Save up that precious money and start trying for a baby now, coz even though you may not feel it now, there will come a time in the future when, believe it or not, you are going to be ripped to shreds by your inability to have a sweet baby of your own”

OK, that’s me.  

Here are my questions if anyone is keen (sorry I’ve stolen a few from other people)  I’m not tagging anybody, I don’t think I even follow as many as 11 blogs at the moment. 

  1. How did you and DH meet ?
  2. What kind of wedding did you have ?
  3. Describe your dream holiday ?
  4. What is the worst date you have been on?
  5. What’s your diagnosis ?
  6. How do you deal with the “when are you having a baby” question?
  7. Do you get on with your mother in law ?
  8. What is your dream job ?
  9. What would you do if you won the lotto ?
  10. Do you believe in a “soul mate” ?
  11. An since the above are such serious questions, Do you use tp with pics or plain ?  hehe

Next post : Answers to Alleycat’s questions…



Someone just mailed this to me and I had to share it with you guys. Hope it brings a smile to your face.


I was driving with my three young children one warm summer evening when a woman in the convertible ahead of us stood up and waved. She was stark naked! As I was reeling from the shock, I heard my 5-year-old shout from the back seat, ‘Mom, that lady isn’t wearing a seat belt!’


On the first day of school, a first-grader handed his teacher a note from his mother. The note read, ‘The opinions expressed by this child are not necessarily those of his parents.’


A woman was trying hard to get the ketchup out of the jar. During her struggle the phone rang so she asked her 4-year-old daughter to answer the phone. ‘Mommy can’t come to the phone to talk to you right now. She’s hitting the bottle.’


A little boy got lost at the YMCA and found himself in the women’s locker room. When he was spotted, the room burst into shrieks, with ladies grabbing towels and running for cover. The little boy watched in amazement and then asked, ‘What’s the matter, haven’t you ever seen a little boy before?’

5) POLICE # 1

While taking a routine vandalism report at an elementary school, I was interrupted by a little girl about 6 years old. Looking up and down at my uniform, she asked, ‘Are you a cop? Yes,’ I answered and continued writing the report. My mother said if I ever needed help I should ask the police. Is that right?’ ‘Yes, that’s right,’ I told her. ‘Well, then,’ she said as she extended her foot toward me, ‘would you please tie my shoe?’

6) POLICE # 2

It was the end of the day when I parked my police van in front of the station. As I gathered my equipment, my K-9 partner, Jake, was barking, and I saw a little boy staring in at me. ‘Is that a dog you got back there?’ he asked.

‘It sure is,’ I replied.

Puzzled, the boy looked at me and then towards the back of the van. Finally he said, ‘What’d he do?’


While working for an organization that delivers lunches to elderly shut-ins, I used to take my 4-year-old daughter on my afternoon rounds. She was unfailingly intrigued by the various appliances of old age, particularly the canes, walkers and wheelchairs. One day I found her staring at a pair of false teeth soaking in a glass. As I braced myself for the inevitable barrage of questions, she merely turned and whispered, ‘The tooth fairy will never believe this!’


A little girl was watching her parents dress for a party. When she saw her dad donning his tuxedo, she warned, ‘Daddy, you shouldn’t wear that suit.’

‘And why not, darling?’

‘You know that it always gives you a headache the next morning.’


While walking along the sidewalk in front of his church, our minister heard the intoning of a prayer that nearly made his collar wilt. Apparently, his 5-year-old son and his playmates had found a dead robin. Feeling that proper burial should be performed, they had secured a small box and cotton batting, then dug a hole and made ready for the disposal of the deceased.

The minister’s son was chosen to say the appropriate prayers and with sonorous dignity intoned his version of what he thought his father always said: ‘Glory be unto the Faaather, and unto the Sonnn, and into the hole he goooes.’ (I want this line used at my funeral!)


A little girl had just finished her first week of school. ‘I’m just wasting my time,’ she said to her mother. ‘I can’t read, I can’t write, and they won’t let me talk!’


A little boy opened the big family Bible. He was fascinated as he fingered through the old pages. Suddenly, something fell out of the Bible. He picked up the object and looked at it. What he saw was an old leaf that had been pressed in between the pages.

‘Mama, look what I found,’ the boy called out.

‘What have you got there, dear?’

With astonishment in the young boy’s voice, he answered, ‘I think it’s Adam’s underwear!’


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